If we want to dissolve the “I,” we need to be free. The one who depends on the behavior of others will not be able to dissolve the “I.” Our conduct must be our own and must not depend on anyone. Our thoughts, feelings, and actions must flow independently from the inside to the outside.
The worst difficulties offer us the best opportunities. In the past there existed many sages surrounded by all types of luxuries who were without any type of difficulties. Wanting to annihilate the “I,” those sages had to create difficult situations for themselves.
In difficult situations we have formidable opportunities to study our internal and external impulses: our thoughts, sentiments, actions, our reactions, volitions, etc.